June 2, 2013
"Only once in your life, I truly believe, you find someone who can completely turn your world around. You tell them things that you’ve never shared with another soul and they absorb everything you say and actually want to hear more. You share hopes for the future, dreams that will never come true, goals that were never achieved and the many disappointments life has thrown at you. When something wonderful happens, you can’t wait to tell them about it, knowing they will share in your excitement. They are not embarrassed to cry with you when you are hurting or laugh with you when you make a fool of yourself. Never do they hurt your feelings or make you feel like you are not good enough, but rather they build you up and show you the things about yourself that make you special and even beautiful. There is never any pressure, jealousy or competition but only a quiet calmness when they are around. You can be yourself a...nd not worry about what they will think of you because they love you for who you are. The things that seem insignificant to most people such as a note, song or walk become invaluable treasures kept safe in your heart to cherish forever. Memories of your childhood come back and are so clear and vivid it’s like being young again. Colours seem brighter and more brilliant. Laughter seems part of daily life where before it was infrequent or didn’t exist at all. A phone call or two during the day helps to get you through a long day’s work and always brings a smile to your face. In their presence, there’s no need for continuous conversation, but you find you’re quite content in just having them nearby. Things that never interested you before become fascinating because you know they are important to this person who is so special to you. You think of this person on every occasion and in everything you do. Simple things bring them to mind like a pale blue sky, gentle wind or even a storm cloud on the horizon. You open your heart knowing that there’s a chance it may be broken one day and in opening your heart, you experience a love and joy that you never dreamed possible. You find that being vulnerable is the only way to allow your heart to feel true pleasure that’s so real it scares you. You find strength in knowing you have a true friend and possibly a soul mate who will remain loyal to the end. Life seems completely different, exciting and worthwhile. Your only hope and security is in knowing that they are a part of your life.”
Read this on Facebook today. Having this kind of closeness is the first part of love for the first few years. This is great, but what happens all to often is in year 15, 16, and 17... the couple stops laughing, stops crying, stops being interested, and essentiallly stops believing. What do you do? The question as was asked in a movie where the husband was on the verge of having an affair and the wife found out, "Do I cut and run or do I stay to find out if it was sex and a necklace, or love and a necklace?" The husband answers, "Oh, I have been a classic fool." The wife answers, "Yes, but you have also made the life I lead foolish too." What do you do? You forgive, try to find your way back and hope for finding each other in the hell that has been created by our human selfish natures. I recently asked a man who I have had little respect for if he regrets divorcing his wife and he said, "Not a day goes by that I don't regret this, but sometimes you just cannot find your way back."
For everyone in this situation, I hope you find your way back because the person who posted the passage above is essentially in the beginning of a second marriage... they will eventually experience the same issues as in the other marriage.
I think part of our purpose in relationships here on earth is to work out part of our hell here so that we can be ready for the true love that God so wants us to experience.
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